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The TRUTH about College! Coming from a Student at PVAMU

 Do you want the truth? Are you in Highschool fantasizing about the glorious time your going to have at  college? Because "this is going to be nothing like high school right?" well, let's see. You have 2 friends that have been your ONLY friends since 9th grade and they aren't even your real besties either; just school friends, You don't go out (other than to work or to run errands), whenever you do actually go out it's most likely by yourself or with family? Need i go on? I mean you already check 2 or more boxes here...

That "great college experience" your looking forward to that will allegedly be "nothing like high school" is a facade. I mean for you at least.

Here's the real truth, especially true if your going to attend an HBCU like I currently do. That ideal college experience most likely does not exist for you. Trust me I've been in college for almost 6 months now and it has NOT gotten better. If you weren't outgoing and extroverted and friendly in high school, it is not going to change. Now it's not impossible for you to make a friend or 2 and become friends with their friends because that does happen. But in my opinion it's best not to rely on it. And also DO NOT rely on your roommate to be your bestfriend. Don't rely on them to include you in plans with THEIR friends and definitely don't rely on them to want to go out with you whenever you feel to shy or nervous to go socialize. Again, I'm speaking from nothing but experience.

College is what you make it yes, but when you've hit the rock bottom of loneliness and sadness in college; either you know how to manage that or it will eat you alive. You will begin to really blame yourself. "Why can't i just go out and talk to people?" "why am i so scared of socializing? I'm so lonely" will ultimately become your new norm when it comes to thoughts.

This topic is basically the premise of this blog. As i am navigating my feelings and depression throughout this college experience, I'd like to help anyone going through this do the same. As a black women in stem (studying comp sci) I understand there won't be many women in this field. That also adds on to the loneliness  you feel as a college student. I'm also tackling that.

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